Make Her Stay
When Alison told me she was leaving all I wanted to do was make her stay. I saw in her eyes what she was going to tell me. She was tired of trying, our relationship was not working and she wanted to move out. It was one of those moments I wish I could just find the right words to say what I was feeling.
I have always been deeply in love with Alison, I think no matter what, I will always love her. For a long time I knew she wanted to leave me, but I had no idea how to make her stay. Alison cried as I begged her not to go, but she said she was applying for a new apartment to live in. As soon as she got a rental she would move out.
That night I didn’t sleep. I poured myself in researching the ways to make her stay. I looked all over the internet. I bought a few ebooks, priced between $15 and $50. I found some really good advice on relationships in these books, they really helped me take the next step in finding a way to make her stay.
One of the best pieces of advice I found was to listen to Alison. In hindsight it seems really obvious, but I had never sat down and had a serious conversation with her about how she felt about our relationship. You can’t find a way to make her stay unless you know why she is leaving in the first place. I asked Alison if we could sit down together the next night do we could talk about what was happening.
That night I spoke from the heart. I let go of my pride and ego and really told Alison how much she meant to me. I knew that we had problems, we both knew. But I wanted to work on them and I hoped that we could do that together. I just hoped that my honesty was enough to make her stay. I told her how much she was loved, and that I would be devastated without her.
I spoke about the future I saw for us. This future was the reason that I needed to make her stay so badly. I’ve always wanted to have kids of my own, and I knew she did too. One day we wanted to get out of the city and have a house on a few acres. I wanted to look out the window with her beside me and see our children playing outside.
Alison listened to what I had to say. I kept calm the whole time and didn’t get angry like I thought I might of. I just explained in simple terms all the reasons I needed to make her stay. Alison confessed that she felt the same way I did. She had felt isolated and alone, and had thought I was no longer interested in the relationship.
Today, Alison and I are on the road to recovery. We are living together, and seeing a couples counselor once a week. Hopefully we can stay on course and work to make our relationship stronger.